Book Review of Drew Dudley’s This Is Day One

day oneI love Drew Dudley’s TED Talks – the one about creating lollipop moments and the one about Larry the homeless man… both give us real food for thought about character and leadership.  I show them to senior boys every year.

So when I saw he had written a book – subtitled ‘A Practical Guide to Leadership That Matters’, I thought I had better get my hands on it.

This isn’t really a book on leadership though – I actually think its a book about living your best life.

It starts by encouraging you to always see yourself as living day one of something – reminding you how you are never more passionate or efficient than on your first day of a job, a diet etc than on the very first day you do it.  Then he goes through a bunch of other really great advice – on changing the way you view rejection, on how you measure the impact you make each day, on appreciating all the great moments of life and identifying and putting into words that values that guide your actions.

It’s very readable and full of the moments in Dudley’s life that resulted in the development of his philosophies.  Very enjoyable – like a longer extension of his TED Talks.


Book Review of True North

True North.JPGI’ve been caught up in re-reading school texts for next year, but have really enjoyed making time for Bill George’s leadership treatise, True North, probably the best leadership book I have read in the past year.

What I like most about this book is the genuine assumption that leaders do things for the right reason – and I we understand ourselves, our life stories and what motivates us, we can act in a way that always points our compass to ‘True North’ – that which reflects the best of ourselves and is in line with our beliefs.

Full of stories and examples from real recognisable leaders (Nelson Mandela, Warren Buffett, Ariana Huffington, Sheryl Sandberg, Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates and Jack Ma for example) , True North is incredibly readable.  The stories are the warnings and the instruction, with commentary from George helping us to truly explore and inhabit their meaning.

Overall, George wants us to be the best leaders we can, but also to lead the best lives we can.  This includes living in conjunction with our values and leaving a legacy of a better world behind us.  How many management books truly leave you with permission and encouragement to do this?

Book Review of How We Work

how we workThis book was recommended by several people I follow on Twitter, so I thought it was worth a look.  The basic premise is to come to terms with the fact that working for a paycheck, and working for a purpose are not mutually exclusive.  In fact, seeking purpose at work is necessary for our own wellbeing.

This book wasn’t quite what I expected – being aimed in some ways at those looking to change their attitude towards work whereas I already feel a strong sense of purpose in what I do.  But there were some practical ideas that I can extrapolate from this to build on workplace culture – which is so important in schools whereby the workload and pressure can sometimes get to us if we do not keep our purpose – that being, contributing to the lives of young people – firmly in mind.

It also deals with compassion – both for self and others, failure and resilience.  All worthy topics that are a great part of self-development. And all are well supported by a strong combination of research and anecdotal evidence.  The anecdote in the compassion chapter about the real-estate developer who befriends the old woman who wont sell out to him  is one I can see myself thinking about and referring to often.

A useful read although not one that resulted in a drastic change of mindset or practice for me.

Book Review of The Courage to Be Disliked

courageThis is the kind of book that changes asks you to confront yourself – but also forgive yourself a lot too.  It’s also quite a clever way to introduce Adlerian Psychology to a new audience, by staging a series of conversations between a philosopher and a young man seeking to understand himself and the purpose of existence more.

Their discussions cover a broad range a topics and a broad range of conclusions Adler came to – and a philosophy that is actually much simpler than many other theories, including Freudian theories.

Adler proposes the following:

  • That we all belong to a part of a greater community, and that we should see all others as comrades
  • All problems are interpersonal problems
  • That the past has no place in the future and if we hold onto it, it is because we choose to
  • You can resolve to change as you can resolve to like yourself
  • Confronting “life tasks”, such as work, friendship and love, are part of growing up
  • We should seek to do our tasks, but remember those that are the tasks of others.  For example, getting someone to like you is their task and not yours.  if it is not your task, you should not spend time or energy on it. This is the definition of freedom
  • Live your life to satisfy yourself – seeking validation from others is to not be free
  • Real happiness comes from a sense of contributing to that community we all belong to.

It’s an interesting book, and the challenges the young man faces in coming to terms with this change in thinking – one that removes the right to blame others and feel sorry for ourselves, may reflect reactions possible in a variety of readers.  But it is a fascinating work and one that will shape your thinking in times to come.  Definitely worth a look.

Book Review of Emotional Agility

emotional-agilityI really enjoyed this read by Susan David – and even more so, the feeling of it staying with me through her incredible Twitter posts.

Emotional Agility is all about taking charge of our emotions.  We can’t escape or supress our emotional reactions when life serves us those metaphorical lemons, but we can learn to control what we do with those reactions.  And this is the crux of Susan David’s work – studying the habits of happy people.  And these aren’t people for whom nothing bad has happened.  These were the people who made the metaphorical lemonade.

Although my reading of this was interrupted by hospital trips, I truly loved every minute I spent engaging with it.  First, she starts with the unhelpful narratives we tell ourselves when we encounter hardship and then begins to show how we can ‘unhook’ ourselves from these.  She even talks about the necessity of negative emotions – which are often perfectly normal and natural reactions.  Ignoring these is to our detriment – but so is staying in them.  We need to acknowledge our feelings, question their function (she calls this “what the func?”), question whether this reflects our authentic self and step out if needs be.

The beauty of this message too is compassion.  David begs us to embrace self-compassion and encourages small tweaks in behaviour, proposing that these have the best long-term staying power.  There are fantastic real-life examples throughout and the style and tone is readable and engaging.  She not only focusses on our personal lives, but the latter chapters have great tips for work and parenting.  And it’s perhaps in this final section that the clearest précis of her work is evident:

  • Emotions pass
  • Emotions are not scary and not bigger than you
  • Emotions are teachers that can help you figure out what matters to you

I could not recommend this tremendous book more.

Book Review of Legacy

legacyThis might not seem like a book I would choose – after all, it looks at the strategy behind the success of New Zealand’s most iconic sporting team, The All Blacks.  But its the subheading that reveals its interest: What The All Blacks Can Teach Us About The Business of Life.

There are some great lessons here about preparing yourself for success, as well as creating a culture of success in any kind of organisation.  It was a highly engaging and thought-provoking read, that really has little to do with sport.

Each of the 15 chapters has a focus and a practice that assist the All Blacks to maintain their reputation in the game (and outside of it).

Here are some of the messages that stood out to me:

Language and ritual are powerful tools in creating community and culture.  Share these and you will invite others into your vision.

Aim High.  Keep changing and growing.  Focus on being even better than those legends who came before you.

Practice under pressure.

Find the gaps in your game.

Be humble and grateful.  It keeps things in perspective.

Get control of your thinking and you will take control of your story.

A lot of this compliments the reading I have been enjoying so much recently on positive psychology, it is just practically applied here.  And let’s face it – the results speak for themselves.  Worth a look for anyone in a leadership position.

Book Review of Switch – Making Change When Change is Hard

Switch.jpgLet’s face it – change is often hard.  And it is most hard when the status quo has been working for us.  Nobody likes to give up strategies that have been working for us.  And this is the key issue for organisational change – what is good for the organisation can sometimes get in the way of what is comfortable for the individual.

Dan and Chip Heath look at this in depth in Switch.  What I liked most about this this book was the ways to create change that they broke down and classified (see in attached picture.

They begin by looking at the mental aspect of change (they call this the ‘Rider’) and how to get people to understand the need for change, and the ways that can undertake it with ease.  Then they look at emotions (the Elephant) – which let’s face it, often trump our logical responses (you know another chocolate is no good for you don’t you, but who can resist?).  Appealing to emotions can prompt that visceral need for change and can build excitement for change. Finally they look at the small things – how to create a pathway for change to make it easier.  We often under-estimate how powerful a small behavioural change can be.  If I sleep in my gym gear, it’s so much easier to get up and go to gym in the morning. There was nothing complicated about that solution – just clever.  A small change can make a big impact.

The Heath brothers suggest that often you will need to work through all three of these aspects in order to be successful.  Some challenges might only need to consider one.

As usual, there are lots of clever and entertaining examples, and further steps that I don’t have time to outline here.  But this was a pretty enjoyable non-fiction read, and certainly one I can see myself referencing over and over.

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